木风Ma.P.LE

久违 - [随想 pieces]

半年了，没有来过这里更新日志。懒惰曾经一直是借口，其实是丢掉了某种心情，但还好没有遗失思考的能力。终于理解，为什么很多思想灵性的闪光，是在特定的经历中沉淀。刚刚看到自己在分手时写的一段话，觉得好有道理，那时的我思想如此深刻。我不要丢失那个自己喜欢的自己，不要远离梦想，要继续拼搏一个精彩的生活！

将那时写下的话，放在这里自勉！

NOT THE ONE

If you
choose to be true to yourself,
choose to fight for your dreams,
choose to stick to what you believe,
choose to be responsible for people you love,

girls,
you may lose a relationship,
you may be kept away from a normal marriage,
you may be still alone while friends have families,

but trust me,
what you won't lose is real love.

Follow your heart,
be a special woman
who shares greater love
who deserves to be truly loved.

----MAPLE

Benefits of Learning - healthy mind, healthy body! (zz一小段) - [Business thoughts]

Benefits of Learning - healthy mind, healthy body!

Thinking of learning a new skill, or do you just want to update your existing skills? Learning something new can help you to earn more money, get a better job or do something you really enjoy.

Whether it’s learning how to dance, speak a foreign language, paint a picture or keep fit, lifelong learning offers wonderful benefits for adults. Use your free time profitably; learn new skills to keep up with your family and children; learn for your leisure or even gain a new qualification!

Learning keeps your mind alert, improves memory and increases self-confidence. It is an inexpensive way to try something new and is an ideal way to meet new people who share your interests.

" Bringing learning to life.

It gives us hope and guides us to follow our own personal callings.

Learn for yourself and build a life for yourself,

from today.

---Maple :) "

Lessons from "the Apprentice" season 10 ep 01 - [Business thoughts]

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1.

其实我不是一个能有长性追一部美剧的人，唯独对“the Apprentice”除外。从大学开始，我从“the Apprentice”的第一集到刚刚结束的第十季，一集也没有落下过，连我自己也惊奇。YB总说，你怎么那么喜欢看人吵架啊；其实我觉得可能是因为我喜欢business相关的东西或者说我喜欢看strong and smart business women呵呵。

第十季的内容恰逢在我们找工作的阶段播出，我真是一集一集追着看的。起初几集有人tudou网上及时更新，后来就没有了，我只好跑到NBC的网站上看回放，每次还要试好几次才能连接上。

我突然有个想法，为什么不把我每集学到的东西写下来和大家分享呢？我觉得这种真人秀挺有意思的，可以看到各种各样的人们的行为，尤其是来自于美国的商业精英。 To win a live show like this, you have to be yourself, not to pretend to be someone else. 等我成熟了倒也蛮想试试这种节目的，it is a very good way to know about oneself.

努力目标是S型女人，Smart, Successful, Strong and Sexy woman 呵呵。

2.

What is “The Apprentice”? 它又名“飞黄腾达”，堪称the toughest job interview in the world.简单的说就是美国地产大亨Donald Trump是终极大boss，每一期节目有16名candidates，他们会分成两组，每周完成指定的商业任务，然后输得一方将会有一名或多于一名的人被淘汰。最后的胜利者被称为Apprentice学徒，她/他将获得为Donald Trump工作的机会和一份名利双收的工作。有点想商战版的“幸存者”吧。

第一至六季的candidates都是从普通人中选拔，非名人。但是由于其收视率的逐渐下降，剧组将第七至第九季改版成了”the Celebrity Apprentice”，也称名人学徒。它的参赛者都是社会名人，每个人都是为自己的Charity慈善机构而战。每项任务或以其募集的捐款的数量来评胜负或以其完成该商业任务的好坏来评断，获胜方将为其慈善机构获得一定的款项，而是失败方则有人会被淘汰。名人学徒的收视率较高，但我还是喜欢普通人版本的，因为那更是纯粹的比较商业上的技能，而非社会关系等。

欣喜的是，今年9月，"The Apprentice”的普通人版本又回归了。第十季打的是重振经济的主题，入选Candidates都是在前一段的经济危机中深受影响的曾经的商业成功人士，大多数都曾是赚6位数年薪的，但是现在失业，生活落差很大。

还有一个亮点是，The apprentice里的Donald Trump的助手也都是很出色的business man/woman. 我还是蛮喜欢Ivanka Trump的。

Ps 我还是要赞叹下美国人的innovation and business environment.

Who is the next apprentice?

“The only way to find it out is to get down to business.” Let’s begin!

3.

第十季第一集的视频可以在土豆网上找到：

http://www.tudou.com/playlist/playindex.do?lid=10330695

NBC官方网站：

http://www.nbc.com/the-apprentice/

下面是我的一些看法，欢迎互动啊：

1, It is never an easy thing to lead a group of so called “aggressive” women, especially in the first task. It is very funny to watch how girls react in the first few weeks. I think problems with girls could be because they tend to be jealous and defensive which is a sign of immaturity. Girls need to know how to control their emotion, how to be cool under pressure and how to open minds to accept criticisms and different views.

2, well, the same thing happened to guys too. But I think in general guys can focus on more on a bigger picture, and they are more capable in controlling their emotions. Well, expect David. ( 难以想象他又五个孩子！可是现实中很多人就是这样，明明自己还是个孩子。) Ps, Gene 还是不错的，有military background的人果然管理起来蛮有个人的气魄的。

3, as to Nicole, to give an impression as a strong and aggressive player at the very first beginning and to volunteer as the first project manger is a risky thing and not that a good strategy as I would use.

4, If you want to be a good leader, you’ve got to have a strong vision and stand in a bigger picture. Also you should have an ability to read people, to read their strength, weakness and personality. And in this specific task, as in girls team, you also have to be “bossy” in certain situation in order to take in control.

What Nicole lacks in this task is that she didn’t have a strong vision of what she was going to create; no doubt she was not able to delegate tasks clearly. In the first task, you can not expect to build trust in such a short period of time and let the team listen to you because they respect you. What you need to do is to make the team run by high executive skills执行力, strong decision making skills 决策力 and giving clear direction目标指引。

I think Nicole is a good person, a good presenter but not that a strong leader as she looks. But she would have definitely gone further in this competition if she had won the first task or hadn’t volunteered as the first project manager.

5,  Nicole这个人我还是挺喜欢的，她是洛杉矶选美冠军，Miss California USA的第四名。我很赞赏她的勇气，也理解她想急于证明自己的能力，可能有时候漂亮的女孩子更想通过一些努力来证明自己其他方面的能力吧。

6, I don’t know why Mahsa is in this competition. She really made me annoyed, but maybe that is why the director chose her as a candidate because the show seems more funny having her around. 她是典型的有小聪明的女生，一看就不能做大事，而且not classy, not elegant, 为人做事的态度很不宽容大气。But what she has taught me is you can never win by just raising up your voice which can just make yourself look cheap and let others make fun of you. 深沉冷静是多么的重要。我们需要的是大的智慧，和从第三个人的角度对自己以及周围环境清晰认识的情商。Mahsa just made herself a funny joke. Nicole should have turned the gun to Mahsa instead of Tiona because she was also responsible for the loss since she sold the team before they even knew the result.

7，I really like Brandy. Although she was not a main person got featured in the episode, but from the very moment she started to talk in the boardroom, I know she could at least be in the top 4. She is the kind of woman I like: calm, smart, supplicated and classy. 感觉是蛮有想法的女生，说话有分寸，低调，而且不会像其他人那样那么非理性却又幼稚的去争取些表面上的东西。

“我对弗拉门戈舞的理解”----周周姐的文章 - [弗舞 Flamenco Dance]

代发：周周姐的一篇文章。周周姐是我们弗拉门戈舞蹈班的精神领袖，她是我见过的对生活有着很成熟而深刻的理解并且真正能做到她所想的人，并且她能将她的智慧很自然的讲出来，分享给她的朋友们。她是生活的智者，我们很多人都经常从她那里得到启示；她的美是发自内心的，她的魅力是最自然而震撼的。而最最让我欣赏的她的一点是，be true to herself! 不理会世俗的眼光，潇洒而真诚！

周周姐没有博客，所以托我转发她曾经写的一篇关于对弗拉门戈舞蹈理解的文章。如果大家喜欢可以转发。文章如下：

我对弗拉明戈的理解是全然无惧地迎向生活的各种面向。它们浑然一体，矛盾而又和谐。愤怒使慈悲更深刻，恨使爱更丰富。这外在世界的完整丰美与内心世界的丰美完整是一非二！

它是激情，它是宁静，它是波涛汹涌，它是平定无澜，它让我在二元世界中体验着一元。它是无惧的艺术，因为真诚进行地活过所以无惧死亡；因为全然地爱过所以无惧分离！我们有时恐惧死亡恐惧生活，是因为我们从未真正地活过。弗拉明戈大声喊出爱恨，因不惧冷淡地回应，也不在乎任何评议，因它想来就来，想走谁也休想留！只剩下观者怀抱它的一缕余香，沉醉于它的狂热与冷酷酿造出的独特凛冽中。

我师从梅塞亚的冯梅老师后，在学艺中熏染着她的风情，描摹她的韵味，发现内在蕴有强大的力量才是学舞的基石。如果没有生活沧桑的磨砺，没有对这磨砺的全然的接受和领悟，是无法领略弗拉明戈的深刻意境，也无法在舞蹈时释放出强大的能量场。在舞蹈中，只感觉光明与黑暗相互成就，欢乐与痛苦交织变幻。某种力量灌注于我，通过我的肢体殷切展现和表达。原来我就是它，它就是我，是我的悲愤，也是我的狂喜；是我的阳光，也是我的阴郁；是我的粗犷，也是我的细腻；是我的执着，也是我的豁达。

在两极的感受中，我认证到了自己和这世界上每一个人的灵魂深处的真相，那就是万境归一，圆满无缺！

Flamenco Dancing 笔记 (四) - [弗舞 Flamenco Dance]

杂：

好久都没有更新博客了，六月和七月是比较忙的两个月，但是过得很充实。现在就将我这段时间做的事情的做个小小的总结吧。这段时间里围绕我的几件事情是期末考试，Flamenco Dancing，新东方老师的免费公开课，以及在做的实习。

Flamenco Notes:

有关Flamenco Dance也是好久没有更新notes了，很抱歉。从五月开始，我慢慢的参加到一些表演当中，真的很开心，很享受准备表演以及上台时的每一分钟。

Like dancing, once you’ve got the rhythm of life, things will come to you.

这句话是当我兴奋的告诉我的朋友我flamenco有进步的时候他说的话。在因为考试等一些事情将Flamenco停了两个星期后，我本以为我肯定找不到感觉了，结果两个星期后的那次上课，老师反而表扬我感觉好，还让我到前面给大家做示范。当时我很受宠若惊啊，不过跳起来的时候倒是也忘了紧张。

我觉得看似柔媚的动作，其实在做的时候是没有丝毫松懈的，你的肌肉是紧绷的，每个扭曲都是由自身的一种力量牵引的，是由内而外的能量的疏导。（写的有点玄乎，大家意会。）

我最近发现我跳舞的时候有了另一个习惯，就是不喜欢看镜子，喜欢向下看或者盯着自己的手臂或身体，这样我才能感觉到我和动作是融在一起的。这是一种很奇妙的感觉，尤其是当你的手臂向上伸展可是你的视线却是关注着自己的身体。

跳Flamenco对于我来说真的是一件纯享受的事，反而在做这件事情的时候我实现了一些小小的梦想，觉得生活中的很多事情是在我没有去刻意想得到什么而只是专注于我做的事情的时候，自然而然的就来了。这种感觉是多么的美妙。

跳舞，掌握的音乐以及舞步最本质生命力的节奏，其他的很多东西就水到渠成。生活也是一样，要找到自己生活的韵律，不要去模仿或者刻意的去适应别人，很多东西会自然的凝聚到你的周围。当然，这是多么深奥而又多么简单的一件事啊。

Keep learning and trying things in life, and make myself a better person everydayJ

附：

上周超级忙，一边实习，然后晚上跑出来表演。周三、周五和周六，连跳了三次。

7月14日，北师大留学生晚会表演～帮幸子的忙～

7月16日，双井，世界美食舞蹈展览，来助兴。

7月16日，跳完了，去“混吧”喝酒的路上～

7月17日，周六，还是双井，美食舞蹈展览，来助兴。 

和幸子～～～～～

冯老师和我～

和那只蛐蛐美女焱同学～

无敌三人组～～周周姐和小曾

全家福啦～

From now on. - [随想 pieces]

From now on, I want to really deside for myself and choose my own way of life.

Be a woman enterpreneur!

Be a world traveler!

About growing up 关于成长 - [随想 pieces]

我也有些意外自己会写这样一篇随感，可是我想说的这些话都是在今天吃7-11的晚饭的时候，很自然的成型于脑子里，就好像有个人在和我讲述一样。所以，吃饱了的我，决定把它记录下来吧。

(I don’t know why I want to use English, maybe because I was working all day on the New-oriental stuff.  It is ok, I will just go with it)

All these days, I’ve been deeply fallen into a very peaceful and joyful mood which stems from a truly grateful thought of appreciating everything I’ve already had at the present. It is a bit wired and unbelievable, isn’t it? The initial reason I guess could be the terrible dream I had a couple of days ago in which I witnessed somehow a tragic disaster and I found myself the only unhurt and well-being person among those sufferers. Even when I was awake, I could clearly remember the feeling I had during the dream --- I was very sad but at the same time I felt very thankful about everything I already have at the moment. I did give a lot of thanks while I was still sleeping in the dreams.

I seldom remember a dream for long except this one. As it has brought to me so real the feelings just like it did happen before, I hardly ignore it and it does give me a very positive thought now everyday.

I might not be the very outstanding & great person who owns many things that most people want or achieves tremendous success in life, but I am actually quite happy with the person I’ve become now and with the path I came along and evolved through.

It is a very very good feeling of giving thanks in your daily life, and convincing yourself to truly believe that you have to give thanks.

I am a normal person, and a normal woman. I have to go through the normal way to become matured and to grow up. Some talented people can just use their minds to figure out what is the right thing or proper thing to do in life, and really do them as the way they believe. But I can’t. I could understand many thoughts or ideas logically, but definitely can’t apply them to myself easily although I feel they are right.

I have to go through the normal way for growing ---- a way of experiencing things myself, learning things myself, and keeping thinking myself, and then I will believe what I get from my own experience and do as it tells me. This is not a fast way to grow up, but a normal way that many people are going through in their lives, regardless they are aware of it or not.

With the level of the society developed and human beings evolved as it is now, without social barriers and historical blinds, I believe everyone in the modern society will become matured one day, meaning everyone will get to know what life is really meant to them and how they are going to live a life one day, it is just a timing thing. Someone figure it out earlier, someone get it later when they are old enough. Someone regret less, someone more, but in the end it doesn’t really matter a lot. That is just life.

What I might not be that normal while I am taking the normal path to grow up, is that I am lucky to be growing up a little bit faster and experiencing things a little bit more, than the common pace of my peers. That could be because I have a potentially open heart which is always eager to know the true essence and I am lucky enough to have matured and great people around me to give me guidance. But above that, I believe I am born with a kind of strong inner drive and passion which push me always developing myself to be good as well as pursuing nice things in life. When I was a child, I always believed that I am unique and I tried to do things different, but now I know the uniqueness is my inner power and thoughts, which is not a thing that you need to prove to other people, it is just born with you and you just need be stick to your heart and don’t let it gone or lost.

I am grateful to have people I love and people who love me in life, really really thankful. I am grateful that life gives me hope and I am still keep moving.

Dear friends, from today, believe in yourself. Live your life and lead your life.

曼谷印象__Those days in peace & joy （一） - [行走 Traveling Light]

我估计这篇日志可能会“红”，因为在现在这个时候有关曼谷的游记肯定不多，哈！

其实，这篇记录的是我去年8月底在曼谷三天的奇妙而美好的经历，带有Maple的一贯不靠谱的周游特点。我本没打算写曼谷，因为那次旅行已经到了我闲散之极的状态：相机很差，还用手机拍照；临时决定从马来西亚去曼谷；没有做任何攻略…… 可是那次曼谷之行还是很顺利且美好。最近泰国的@@，以及曼谷城市所遭的破坏，让我很怀念当时在那里的经历，尤其是当我看到有些我去过的地方现在已经倒塌或被烧毁。当我决定再次搜索那段记忆，而写下点什么的时候，却发现其实一点都不难，好多往事和感受还是犹在眼前。

去年的出行，我是如此幸运，仅此记录那些和平而快乐的日子，愿世界更美好。（啊，好酸，好吧，世界和平，cheers！）

Ps由于相机很差，所以这篇日志的配图将会很不专业，较以前差很多，请大家见谅吧。

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临时决定入境泰国

对于不会游泳，不会潜水，不去热带雨林徒步的我，马来西亚的确是一个比较boring的地方。在Penang的我临时决定将旅行的最后几天用在泰国。由于没有提前计划，我只能落地签证；加上时间短促，24小时之内无法订AirAsia的航班，我只好做大巴。于是，一个比较疯狂的行动就开始了：我一个女孩子，从Penang买了去Bangkok的长途夜班大巴，也没有签证，就这样即将陆路进入我早已心动但不敢独自前往的国家——泰国。如果不是我真的坐车到了曼谷，我真的不会认为马来西亚和泰国会是连着的……

傍晚在入境泰国的时候，还发生了一个小插曲。之前在出境马来西亚的时候，曾经到一个类似移民海关的地方在我的护照上盖了几个章，还给我了个卡片，我以为那就是泰国的签证了，因为其实我也不知道我到哪里了，只是他们让我们下车办手续我们就下了。所以，在泰国边境时，检察官其实是让我到后面的屋子办签证，结果我以为让我过境，所以在我往前走的时候被海关拦了下来，带进了后面的office。从他们看我的眼神中，我突然想到了朋友曾经跟我说，有很多中国女孩入境泰国然后做某种行业；他们看我的眼神好像是以为我是这种人，汗。还好后来解释清楚了，顺利签证入境。

印象很好地泰国长途巴士

我虽然坐的夜班长途巴士不太多，但也坐过一些，包括在在欧洲时西班牙的夜间巴士和美国的灰狗，可是去曼谷的这趟巴士是我遇到的唯一给发毯子的。这倒让我很吃惊。夜间还下车吃了一顿巴士安排的泰国夜宵。

凌晨到达曼谷，在街上游荡

早上天还没有亮，巴士到了第一站。我听不懂泰语，估计是到了曼谷，后来和乘务员比划着确认了一下，但是这个站其实是离曼谷市区比较远的一个站。

对地理位置还摸不着头脑的我，在围向我的众多Taxi中坐上了一辆，前往曼谷市区。

我爱这段路上的风景和感觉。随着车渐渐驶进城区，曼谷，这色彩无比绚烂的繁华都市，阴雨蒙蒙中，透过车窗的视线，慢慢的，在我眼前苏醒，仿佛她知道我的到来一样；而凝视着一座城市从宁静走向奔放，就像注视着一个人在你面前，渐渐的敞开心扉，让人忍不住想更多的去了解她。一个陌生的女子，在清晨第一缕阳光的陪伴下，去观察一个陌生的城市，再美而感性不过了。

“条件艰苦”的青旅

之前在Penang的旅馆里查Bangkok的YHA，所得的信息很少，其他旅馆和客栈倒是很多。由于我还是信任YHA的质量和价格，最终还是选择到这家地理位置比较好的YHA来落脚——YHA Bangkok Downtown。他们的地理位置确实不错，离skytrain station 也很近，比较安全，就是真的太小了，Taxi找了好半天才找到，这里也比较吵，离high street比较近。

纪念Siam Paragon和Central World, 我如此爱的shopping malls

为什么说是纪念，因为前不久在新闻里看到这两个shopping malls都在动乱中遭受破坏而关闭，central world更是传出说要倒塌的消息。Siam Paragon和central world好象是亚洲还是东南亚最到的shopping malls，对于如此痴迷于shopping的我来说，来到Siam Paragon真是有种到Paragon的感觉。曼谷之行中，我前前后后的在这里消磨了很多时间。

这里很大，而且更重要的是品牌很齐全。很多在国外商场才能看到的国际品牌在这里都看的到。我一个人能就在这里悠闲的window shopping，看着过往的陌生人，感觉很是惬意啊。

我印象最最深的是Siam Paragon的Gourmet Market，那里的食物看起来都好精致。我买了一盒特殊的点心，它的外形做的很想水果，很逼真，但实际上是甜点，看起来十分的诱人。真后悔没有把它拍下来～

在Central World里面我吃了一次Japanese Hot Pot, 也很特别。盛肉的盒子是木制的黑色且方形，很有设计感，而每个盒子里面只是薄薄放了一层肉，而且切的很薄，很是精致。

可惜这两个shopping malls 都被关闭了，我只拍了一点照片，放到这里纪念一下吧。

For those days in peace and joy.